Listening to the Wisdom of the Body

 

What Your Energy Is Actually Trying to Tell You

You probably already know something is off.

Maybe it's the Sunday night dread that creeps in before the week begins.  Or the way certain meetings leave you hollowed out. The project you keep postponing - it's not because you're lazy, but maybe because something in you just… won't go there.

Or maybe it's subtler than that. A low-grade exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix. A sense that you're doing all the right things and still feel strangely far from yourself.

Consider this: is it possible that this is not a motivation problem?   Could it be that your body is trying to tell you something.

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Your Body Has a Built-In Compass

We tend to think of purpose as something we think our way into. We take the assessments, read the books, make the vision boards. And while all of that has its place - none of it works if we're not also listening to the most honest information source we have.

Our own body.

Your nervous system is constantly tracking what is life-giving and what is life-draining. It registers this  in sensations rather than thoughts.  Sensations like:

• The lightness you feel stepping into a conversation that actually matters to you
• The subtle bracing before you walk into a room that doesn't feel safe
• The aliveness that shows up when you're doing work that fits who you are
• The slow leak of energy that happens when you stay somewhere too long that isn't right for you

This isn't "woo". This is your biology doing exactly what it was designed to do - orienting you toward flourishing.  We are fearfully and wonderfully made! 

The question is whether you have learned to read the signals...or whether you've been overriding them for so long that they've gone quiet.

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Burnout Is a Disconnection, Not a Deficit

I want to offer something that might land differently than what you've heard before:

Burnout is not actually caused by working too hard. It's caused by working too long in disconnection from your body's wisdom.

I know something about this. Before my brain surgery in 2017, my body had been sending signals for years - migraines, chronic load, a kind of relentless pushing. I kept leading anyway. I thought I was being strong. What I was actually doing was turning the volume all the way down on the most important information I had.

Burnout is what happens when we stop asking where do I feel most alive - and just keep going.

Recovery - real recovery - begins when we start asking that question again. And actually waiting for the answer.

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Three Questions Worth Sitting With

These aren't journaling prompts to think through. They're invitations to feel into. Read each one slowly. Take a breath. Notice what happens in your body before your mind jumps in.

Where do I feel most alive? Not most productive. Not most impressive. Most alive. Think of a specific moment - a conversation, a place, a kind of work - where time moved differently and you felt genuinely present. Where was that? What was happening? Your body remembers even if you've forgotten.

What environments nourish me? Some spaces fill you up. Some quietly drain you. Some people leave you more yourself. Others leave you smaller. You already know this - your body registers it every time. What are the conditions under which you genuinely thrive?

What drains me repeatedly? Not just the hard things - hard isn't the same as draining. Some hard things are deeply energizing. What drains you is what costs you more than it gives back. Where do you consistently arrive home emptier than when you left?

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Two Practices to Begin Listening

1. The Energy Audit At the end of each day this week, pause for two minutes and scan back through your day. Without judgment, note: what expanded you? What contracted you? You're not making any decisions yet. You're just building a map. Over time, the map will tell you something important about where you belong - and where you've been staying too long.  **note - I just started doing this one - and while it is not super life-changing (yet) it is most definitely affirming that I know myself.

2. The Aliveness Check Before you say yes to something new - a commitment, a role, an opportunity - ask your body before you ask your calendar. Take one intentional breath and notice: does this create a sense of expansion or constriction? Aliveness or fatigue? You don't have to act on it immediately. But let the body vote.  

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Purpose Isn't a Destination. It's a Direction.

You don't need to have it all figured out. You don't need the perfect job title or the five-year plan.

You just need to start paying attention to what makes you feel most like yourself - and move, however slowly, toward more of that.

Your body already knows the direction.

The work is learning to trust what it's telling you.

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Next week: Post 3 — Relational Purpose. Because who we are in relationship reveals something about who we were made to be.

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EMBody Wisdom offers life coaching, grief coaching, spiritual direction, Healing Touch, workshops, and group experiences for people ready to come home to themselves. Learn more at www.embodywisdomca.com

Your Body Has Been Telling the Truth All Along

Why Self-Trust Feels So Hard - and How to Reclaim It

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You've done the journaling. You've talked it through with your therapist, your best friend, maybe even your cat. (Because they listen better than your dog). You've made the pros and cons list. And still - you can't quite land on what feels true for you.

Sound familiar?

If you're someone who prides yourself on self-awareness, the inability to trust yourself can feel especially disorienting. You know things. You've done the work. So why does your own inner voice feel like it's speaking through static?

After years of work on myself (and studying body awareness and working with clients) is that self-trust isn't JUST a mindset problem. It's a physical body issue.

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The Real Reason You Second-Guess Yourself

Most of us were taught to think our way to answers. We analyze, we research, we seek outside opinions. And while all of that has its place, we were rarely taught something just as essential: how to listen to the intelligence already living inside us.

That intelligence has a name: interoception. It's your body's ability to sense its own internal state 

- the subtle tightening in your chest before you say yes to something that isn't right for you, 

           - the warmth and openness you feel when something aligns, 

                   - the quiet heaviness that settles in when you're about to betray yourself.  

                           - The way the hairs on your arm stand up when you meet someone you feel like 

                                    you have known in a past life.  

Or the way your heart beats faster when you are in an unknown/unsafe space.

Your body is constantly sending you signals. The question is whether you've learned to hear them - or whether years of stress, trauma, busyness, or simply being told to "push through" have turned the volume way down.

When the connection to those signals gets disrupted, we start outsourcing our knowing. We look outward for answers that were always meant to come from within.

This is a nervous system pattern. And you can make it work FOR you.

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What Self-Trust Actually Feels Like in the Body

Self-trust isn't a thought. It's a felt sense.

It often feels like:

• A settling - like something quietly clicking into place
• A sense of spaciousness or ease - in the chest or belly
• A calm "yes”  - that doesn't require convincing
• An absence of the anxious scrambling  - that happens when you're betraying yourself

And when something is not right for you, the body often knows before the mind catches up:

• A subtle bracing or constriction
• A low-grade unease that logic can't argue away
• Fatigue that arrives at the thought of something
• A restlessness that persists even after you've "decided"

This isn't intuition as mysticism. This is your nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do - helping you navigate toward safety, alignment, and wholeness.

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Three Practices to Begin Coming Home to Yourself

You don't rebuild self-trust through more thinking. You rebuild self-trust through practice - small, consistent acts of turning toward your body's wisdom instead of away from it.  Here are some ways to put it in to practice and rebuild that “muscle”

1. The Pause Before the Answer

Before you respond to a request, an invitation, or a decision - even a small one - take one breath (in through your nose and out through your mouth…so it is intentional) and scan inward. And notice. Is there ease or tightening? Expansion or contraction? You're not committed to acting on anything yet. You are just beginning to listen.

2. The Body Check-In

Once a day - morning works beautifully - spend two minutes sitting quietly and asking your body a simple question: What do I need today? Then wait. Notice what arises in sensation, image, or impulse rather than thought. Write it down if that helps. Over time, you'll be surprised how consistent and wise those responses become.

3. The Resonance Test

When you're facing a real decision, try this: state each option out loud (or in writing) and notice what your body does in response. Not what you think about it, but what you feel. Which option creates a sense of aliveness? Which one creates a subtle shrinking? Your body often knows before your mind gives it permission to.

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This Is a Practice, Not a Destination

In all honesty, rebuilding the relationship with your body's wisdom takes time, especially if you've spent years overriding it, surviving through it, or simply not knowing it was available to you.

But I've watched clients shift from chronic self-doubt to a deep, quiet self-authority - not because they finally figured out the "right" answer, but because they learned to trust the source of knowing that was always already there.

You don't need to become someone different.

You need to come home to who you already are.

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Ready to start? I've created a free guide — "The Body Knows: 5 Daily Practices to Rebuild Your Inner Wisdom" — to walk you through exactly how to begin. It's gentle, practical, and designed specifically for people who are done outsourcing their knowing.

[Download the free guide here → 

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EMBody Wisdom offers life coaching, grief coaching, spiritual direction, Healing Touch, workshops, and group experiences for people ready to come home to themselves. Learn more at www.embodywisdomca.com

ATTUNEMENT

Attunement, Not the Version of Me That Has It All Together

Have you ever caught yourself doing that familiar thing - almost automatic, almost invisible - but that thing where you are trying to get everything EXACTLY right.

The scheduling, the planning, the negotiating of time and expectation. None of it dramatic on its own. In fact, it looks like ordinary life. But underneath there is something tighter, more subtle: a quiet internal bracing, as if somewhere inside of you is holding its breath and saying, if you can just manage this well enough, you will finally settle.

If you could be a little more disciplined. A little more patient. A little more composed. Then maybe you would feel like yourself again.

It is such a small movement inward, and yet it carries an enormous weight. Because beneath it is a story most of us have absorbed so thoroughly we rarely question it: that the task of being human is, in some fundamental way, to improve ourselves into acceptability. To refine the rough edges. To present something coherent enough, polished enough, together enough to be received without hesitation.

A version of my self carefully arranged into readiness.

And for many of us, that effort stops feeling like effort. It starts to feel like responsibility. Like adulthood. Like the only sensible way forward.

But if you stay close to it - close enough to notice what it actually does in you - you can feel the cost.

There is a narrowing. A subtle tightening in the body. A bracing against what is already here in favor of what should be handled, organized, improved. A quiet turning away from lived experience in exchange for something more manageable.

And somewhere in that movement, a question begins to form.

What if pushing forward is not actually the way through?

There is another way of being that doesn’t begin with improvement.

It begins with attunement.

Not as a strategy, and not as a concept to master, but as a different quality of relationship with your own experience. A willingness to stay close to what is actually happening inside you, without immediately translating it into a problem to solve.

Attunement is the practice of staying in contact with yourself - especially in the places that feel unfinished, uncertain, or quietly undone.

Especially there.

Because so much of what we are taught assumes a different posture: that clarity comes from effort, that discomfort is a signal to move faster, that uncertainty is something to resolve as quickly as possible so life can proceed correctly.

So we override what we feel. We analyze it. We try to think our way out of it. We turn inward experience into something to manage from a distance.

But the body does not respond to this kind of pressure by opening. It responds by bracing. By tightening its field of attention. By narrowing what it allows us to feel so that we can keep functioning.

And in that narrowing, something essential often gets lost.

If you slow down long enough to notice, the body is already speaking.

It speaks in constriction across the chest. In fatigue that lingers longer than it should. In the sense that something in your life no longer quite fits, even if nothing outwardly seems wrong. In a restlessness that doesn’t have a clear explanation, or a heaviness that settles without invitation.

These are not interruptions to your life.

They are part of it.

Signals, not failures.

To live with attunement is to begin taking those signals seriously...not as problems to eliminate, but as information to stay in relationship with.

This does not mean immediately fixing what you find there. It does not mean turning every sensation into a plan or every discomfort into a directive. It means something quieter, and in some ways more difficult: remaining present without rushing to resolve.

Listening.

And this kind of listening is not passive. It asks something of you.

It asks you to pause when your instinct is to push.
To soften when your habit is to tighten.
To remain with yourself when everything in you wants to move on toward resolution.

It asks you to tolerate not knowing just a little longer than feels comfortable.

In that space, which is unforced and unhurried, something begins to shift. Not because you solved it or tried to control it, but because you stopped abandoning it and you stayed close enough for something more honest to emerge.

Over time, this becomes a different way of moving through life.

Less driven by urgency.
More guided by relationship.

Less about becoming someone else.
More about returning to yourself.

Less about getting it right.
More about staying in contact with what is real.

This does not mean you stop moving forward.

It means you stop leaving yourself behind in order to do it.

So the next time you notice that familiar tightening...the subtle push to correct, to improve, to get everything in order...pause, not as a technique, but as an opening.

Just long enough to see what is actually happening.

And then ask, gently, without urgency:

What would it be like to stay with myself here?

Right now

In the imperfection.

Because you do not have to force your way forward.

There is another way.

You can listen your way there...you can attend to letting your body tell you that something is happening.  And you can let that be the place where you stand right now...

I Didn't Notice My Home Disappearing - Until I Couldn't Sleep

EMBODY WISDOM  ·  LIVE YOUR PURPOSE

It didn’t arrive all at once. Slow neglect never does - it moves in quietly, and by the time you recognize it, it’s already settled inside you.

April 24, 202610 min readHonesty · Anxiety · Coming Home

I looked around my house recently and I didn't recognise it.

Papers on every surface. Clothes on the floor. Things left exactly where they landed, as though putting them away properly was a luxury we'd all silently agreed we no longer had time for. It looked, honestly, like a teenage high school locker — except this is the home I've poured love into, the home I have been creating for family space, the home I'm supposed to feel safe in.

And the strangest, most unsettling part? I couldn't tell you exactly when it happened. There was no moment. Just a slow, quiet drift - a little more each week - until I realized the warmth had gone out of the spaces, and I was the only one who seemed to notice.

I'm sharing this because I know I'm not alone in it. And because with EMBody Wisdom, we talk about living your purpose - but sometimes living your purpose means being honest about where you've drifted away from yourself first. This is that piece. This is me, starting there.

The anxiety I didn't connect to my home

It took me longer than I'd like to admit to trace the thread. I knew I was anxious. I knew I wasn't sleeping properly - waking at 2am with that particular kind of low-grade dread that doesn't attach itself to any one thing. I knew I was losing time to the chaos: searching for things, moving piles to find other piles, starting tasks and not finishing them because there was nowhere clean to land.  I knew this was not how I was taught to tend to my space as I was growing up (but sometimes that work felt too heavy).

What I didn't immediately understand was that my home was not separate from all of the dread and lost time. It was the source of it.

When your environment is in chaos, your nervous system never fully gets to rest. It stays on alert - scanning, registering, carrying it all.

Our bodies are not separate from the spaces we inhabit. They are in constant conversation with them. And when every surface carries unfinished business, every room holds something unresolved, that conversation becomes exhausting. Your body doesn't get to say "I'm home now." It stays quietly braced, waiting for the next thing to do.

PHYSICAL WELLBEING

What clutter does to your body

A disordered environment keeps cortisol - your primary stress hormone - quietly elevated. Your nervous system registers visual chaos as unfinished business, holding a low-level state of alert that interrupts sleep cycles, drains energy, and makes genuine rest almost impossible. It is not a character flaw. It is biology. And it can be shifted.  (As a woman in peri-menopause this is even more important to notice!) 

EMOTIONAL WELLBEING

EMOTIONAL WELLBEING
The loneliness of being the one who sees it

There is a particular kind of ache in being the person in your household who feels the environment - who carries its weight - while others around you seem genuinely unaffected. My husband moves through the same rooms and appears untouched. And for a long time I wondered: is it me? Am I too sensitive?

What I am beginning to see is this: some of us are simply more attuned. That attunement is not a weakness. It is wisdom. It is also, when unacknowledged, a quiet form of loneliness.

And I want to be clear - this isn’t about asking for pity. It’s about naming what is real. It’s about recognizing the emotional landscape I’ve been moving through, and giving it language instead of dismissing it. Because when we can name something honestly, it loses a bit of its power to isolate us—and becomes something we can actually tend to with care.

MENTAL WELLBEING

The time you don't realise you're losing

Clutter is a thief of a very particular kind - it doesn't take big chunks of time all at once. It takes minutes here, minutes there. The searching, the shuffling, the circling back. And underneath that, it occupies mental bandwidth constantly: the open loops, the low hum of things undone, the creeping guilt. Living your purpose requires access to your own mind. A cluttered environment makes that access harder than it needs to be.

The thing I worry about most

I'm not sure my daughter sees the chaos the way I do. She's young enough that this is simply the landscape she's growing up inside, which is - if I'm being completely honest - the part that weighs on me most. I don’t want to alarm her and I don’t really think she is suffering in any obvious way. But I know how deeply our earliest environments shape what we come to accept as normal.

A NOTE ON OUR CHILDREN

They absorb what we normalise

Children don't always see disorder - but they feel it. They feel the ambient stress of a home that's out of alignment. They absorb the patterns we model around tending to space, around care, around whether their environment deserves attention. The most powerful thing we can do for them isn't to have a perfect home. It's to let them witness us choosing to tend to it — with intention, with gentleness, with the belief that we and our spaces are worth that care.

SPIRITUAL WELLBEING

Coming back to a home that feels like you

At the core of living your purpose is alignment - the feeling that your outer life reflects something true about your inner one. When your home has drifted far from the warmth and intention you used to bring to it, there is often a deeper story underneath: a season of depletion, a period of grief or overwhelm, a time when the energy simply ran out and the tender acts of homemaking were the first thing to go. Recognising that drift is not a failure. It is the beginning of finding your way back.

Where I'm beginning - and an invitation to join me

I'm not starting with the whole house. I'm not making a grand overhaul plan or ordering storage systems online at midnight. I'm starting with one surface, cleared with intention. I'm starting with the act of noticing - of placing a hand on my kitchen table and saying, quietly, I remember when … this felt like a place for conversation and a genuine gathering place. I want that back.

Because that's how purpose works, in my experience. In small, honest, repeated choices to return to yourself - even when you've drifted, even when no one else in the house seems to notice the drift at all.  

If any part of this landed for you today, you are not alone. The mess is not who you are. And it is never, ever too late to come home to yourself.

You don't have to carry this alone.

At EMBody Wisdom, I work with women who are ready to reconnect — with their bodies, their spaces, and the deeper sense of purpose that gets buried under the weight of daily life. If this resonated, we'd love to walk alongside you.

Start with one small thing today. I'll be here when you're ready for more.

When the Ground Shifts: Noticing, Naming, and Actually Changing

 When the Ground Shifts: Noticing, Naming, and Actually Changing

I woke up on Saturday with that kind of pain you can’t ignore.

A deep, gripping tightness in my lower back - the kind that makes you move a little slower, sit a little more carefully, rethink even the simplest things like tying your shoes. (ouch)

And of course, I knew exactly why. 🙄

It was from a long run the day before. Nothing surprising. Nothing mysterious. And as a mature adult woman who knows her body, I could name it immediately: I need to strengthen my core. I need to support my back better. I know what to do.

That wasn’t the problem.

The problem is… I’ve known that for a while.

Maybe you know this space too - the gap between awareness and action. Between I know what would help me and I’m actually living it.

Because knowing isn’t the same as shifting.

At EMBody Wisdom, we talk a lot about paying attention to our bodies. And noticing is powerful - it is the first act of care. But what we don’t always talk about is how frustrating it can be to notice clearly… and still not change.

→  I knew my back needed more support (and that I would love to have instagram worthy abs)

→ I knew I needed to build strength in a different way (or basically actually doing the work rather than just thinking about is)

→ I knew this wasn’t a one-time fix, but an invitation to shift how I care for myself (attending to how I am setting my intentions)

So why hadn’t I done anything yet?

Because real change asks more of us than information.

It asks for interruption.

It asks us to pause our habitual or familiar patterns (even the ones that are “mostly working”) and choose something new - consistently, imperfectly, over time.

And if I’m honest, it also asks for support.

Because the deeper truth beneath a sore back is: we don’t shift in isolation very well.

Left to ourselves, we tend to circle the same knowing without moving. We tell ourselves, I’ll start tomorrow. We wait until it hurts enough. We rely on willpower instead of structure, and then wonder why nothing sticks.

So maybe the question isn’t just, What do I need to fix?

Maybe the better question is: What kind of support would help me actually follow through?

For me, that might look like:

• Asking someone to help me build a simple, sustainable core routine
• Inviting a friend to check in with me (not to pressure, but to accompany)
• Attaching a new habit to something I already do, instead of hoping I’ll “find time”
• Letting it be small enough that I’ll actually begin

Because the goal isn’t perfection. It’s movement.

It’s closing the gap - just a little - between what I know and how I live.

And this is true beyond sore backs.

When life shifts - whether it’s physical, emotional, mental or spiritual - we often know more than we’re able to embody right away. The invitation isn’t to shame ourselves for that gap, but to get curious about what will actually help us cross it.

Who walks with us matters.

What structures we build matters.

How gently we begin… that matters too.

So if you’re noticing something in your life right now - something your body, your heart, or your
circumstances are asking of you - start here:

Not with everything.

Just with one small, supported step.

Because wisdom isn’t just in knowing what needs to change.

It’s in creating the conditions that help you actually live it.

                                              LIVE YOUR PURPOSE...

New Life Doesn't Announce Itself

We expect new life to feel obvious. Exciting. Clear. We expect it to arrive with some kind of signal - a feeling of readiness, a dramatic shift, a moment we'll later point to and say 

that's when everything changed.

But most of the time new life it sneaks up on you.

A small moment. A conversation. Something shifts and you almost miss it. You're walking somewhere ordinary - a garden, a coastline, a familiar street - and something is quietly different. Not loudly. Not triumphantly. Just... different.

What if you're closer to something new than you think and just haven't recognized it yet?

We've been taught to expect new life to look like fireworks. New beginnings as dramatic events. Transformations as obvious before and after. But new life in a human body doesn't usually work that way.

It works slowly. Quietly.

It asks you to get close to it. Touch it. Sit with it for a while before you believe it's real. And even then you might second-guess it. Wonder if you're making it up. Wait for something louder before you let yourself believe that something is actually shifting.

That's not resistance. That's just how change actually works in a human body.

Your skepticism of your own transformation is not a sign that nothing is happening. It might be the most honest sign that something real is.

So this week - wherever you are, whatever season you're in - slow down enough to notice what might already be changing. Not to force it into meaning. Not to perform a breakthrough you haven't quite had yet.

Just to recognize what's already there.

New life doesn't always announce itself. Sometimes you have to get quiet enough to notice it.

Your pace is okay.

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What is quietly shifting for you right now that you might be missing?

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A Lenten Confession: I Forgot to Put Myself on the Prayer List

A Lenten Confession: I Forgot to Put Myself on the Prayer List

A lighthearted - but honest - note for the people who take care of everyone else.

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Every year, Lent arrives with its beautiful invitation to SLOW DOWN, go inward, and tend to the soul.

And every year, those of us in ministry look up from our fifteenth planning meeting of February and say, "That sounds wonderful. Who is that for?"

Because the quiet irony of serving in a faith community, is that the season designed for stillness, is also the season where the people guiding that stillness are running at approximately 140% capacity. Ash Wednesday logistics. Mid-week services. Holy Week services - plural. Easter Sunday, which has the energy of a Broadway opening night but with more lilies and a significantly earlier call time.

Somewhere between "remember you are dust" and "can someone please reorder the candles," we forget to breathe.       

"We are very good at holding space for others. We are somewhat less good at remembering we also take up space.”

THE OCCUPATIONAL HAZARD OF BEING THE HELPER

The reality is that nobody puts that in the job description: when you are the person people come to, it becomes genuinely awkward to need something yourself.

You become, in the eyes of your community, a kind of spiritual vending machine - always stocked, always available, dispensing comfort and wisdom with a smile. The idea that the machine might occasionally need to be restocked is not part of anyone's mental model. Including, if we're honest, our own.

We are very good at asking "how are you?" We are considerably less practiced at answering it truthfully when someone asks us back. The honest answer - "tired, a little frayed, wondering why I agreed to lead three additional small groups this semester" - tends to stay internal.

This is not a complaint. It is an occupational quirk. And like most occupational quirks, it is mostly fine right up until it isn’t. (seriously…just before you fall over the edge)

But Guess WHAT JESUS DID (THAT WE CONVENIENTLY SKIP OVER)

Here is a fun spiritual exercise: go back through the Gospels and count how many times Jesus withdraws. Goes off alone. Finds a garden. Takes a boat ride. Sleeps through a storm, which honestly sounds like a coping mechanism we should all explore.

The person we are following - the one we cite when we explain why we do this work - regularly stepped away from the demands of ministry to replenish. He wept before miracles. He asked his friends to stay awake with him in the hard moments. He had needs, and he did not appear to be embarrassed about them.

If the Son of God built rest and honest emotion into his ministry practice, the theological case for running yourself into the ground is, at best, shaky.

"Jesus napped on a boat in a storm. The bar for self-care is not actually that high."

SO, WHERE ARE THE HELPERS FOR THE HELPERS?

Good question. Genuinely. Where are they?

The honest answer is that they usually have to be sought out on purpose, because they will not just appear. A spiritual director. A therapist who doesn't flinch when you mention sermon prep and boundary violations in the same sentence. A peer group that actually tells the truth. A coach who asks you the questions you've been too busy to ask yourself.

If you don't have any of those right now - no judgment. Ministry tends to produce people who are excellent at building support systems for everyone except themselves (and even that skill is becoming harder to reproduce). And it IS a skill, just not a particularly lucrative or recognized.

Consider this a gentle nudge to add yourself to the list of people you take care of. Not at the bottom. Somewhere in the middle, at least. (oof…that even seems awkward to write)

A LENTEN PRACTICE THAT REQUIRES ALMOST NO PLANNING

By this time - you've already given up sugar or social media or saying "just checking in" on emails. But may I suggest one more small thing?

Give up performing on “fine".

Not publicly. Not in ways that worry your congregation or end up in next week's bulletin. But somewhere - in a journal, in prayer, with one honest friend, with a coach or director - tell the truth about where you actually are. Not the newsletter version. The real one.

The tired, grateful, stretched, sometimes-wondering-what-I'm-doing, deeply-committed-anyway version. That person deserves to be seen too. Especially by you.

After all, Lent is fundamentally about honesty - about looking clearly at what is real before we get to resurrection. That applies to your inner life just as much as the congregation's.

You have spent this season helping other people find their way out of the dark. You are allowed to admit when you need a little light yourself.

You're not complaining. You're human. There's a difference - and it's a rather important one!

Ready to have someone actually ask how you are “really" doing?

At EMBody Wisdom, that is exactly the kind of conversation we love to have. Whether you are in the middle of a demanding season, navigating a transition, or just quietly running on fumes — you deserve a space that is entirely yours.

No agenda. No one else's needs on the table. Just honest, grounded support for the person doing all the supporting.

Reach out and let's start there. Because you spend enough time caring for others. Let someone return the favor.

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